Thoughts on Agape
Regardless of your sexual orientation, your identified faith and spiritual beliefs, or if you have an aversion to matters of religion or faith there are several elements or skills helpful in developing or maintaining authentic heart-centered relationships. Being fully and authentically you, holding a shared vision, making a commitment to that vision, showing yourself and your loved one compassion, learning how to communicate clearly while honoring each other’s differences, and lastly loving one another unconditionally. The type of love that has no agenda, also referred to as agape. With that type of love we find that while we may not always like what the other person does or says, it is possible to love them completely, unconditionally and unapologetically. (note- I am not condoning accepting unacceptable behavior.)
In the words of Martin Luther King, Jr. agape “is an overflowing love that seeks nothing in return.” My parents, who will celebrate 46 years of marriage this fall, taught me this type of unconditional love. I watched them over the years love each other and their squirrely 5 kids unconditionally. While they might not have liked certain things I or my siblings did, and I sometimes wonder how they loved me during my moody teenage years, they did love me and do.
May you love and be loved.